I’m a big believer in actions speaking louder than words, I’ve given too many chances in the past, when I’ve felt that I’ve been taken for granted, used and abused, I’ve still forgiven and got burned. Now I’m paying closer attention, I need to listen to my instincts, instead of being so forgiving and listening to sob stories, I need to remind myself that my inner peace is important and if I’m stressed, that stress will impact my children and my health.
I tend to have more severe pain flare ups when I’m stressed and I have them more frequently. So if you have a friend or family member who helps you often, remember to offer to help them too, even if they don’t ask for help, or seem to have any problems, you never know what’s beneath the surface. Kindness costs nothing, consideration, communication and compassion are also free and is it really so hard for you to free up some of your time to support someone else?! The answer is NO, NO it’s not hard, people who have genuinely good hearts, will find time, regardless of how busy they are.
Dating is a whole other ballgame, from experience, I’ve learned that men who ‘love bomb’ their targets, are narcissists, they create an illusion of being Mr Perfect, have you believing in fate and as soon as you’re under their spell, they start gaslighting, playing games and crushing your self esteem. That’s why I now avoid anyone who seems too good to be true, believe it or not, now I don’t know how much or little attention is acceptable. I just don’t know what a healthy balance is, I don’t want to get hurt, but if we don’t take risks, will we ever be truly happy? I just know, that if you want somebody in your life, you should show it, don’t string people along, that hurts more in the long run and if you like someone but aren’t upfront with them, you’re risking losing them.
The things we do when nobody is watching, are the things that define us and I personally admire integrity and honesty. Integrity is doing the right thing, even when nobody is watching and how you treat people is a true reflection of who you really are. Many people will say that they have good intentions and values, but often it’s for personal gain, so pay close attention to what they do and not what they say they’ll do.